Obituary for Jeffrey Mark Adams
For those of you who knew Jeff and for those who know me I'm writhing this on behalf of Jeff who after spending 34 amazing years with was the kindness caring loving human being, we should all in our lives stride to be.
We all know the old saying (he would give the shirt off his back)
But having the honor to be loved by him for so long that saying literally hold true about Jeff.
The man truly would give the shirt off his back or the last dollar in his pocket to anyone, family, friend, stranger who he had the pleasure to meet and needed his help.
He never judged or turned his back on anyone, especially anyone in need
if you knew him you know this to be true.
He was my rock we spent every day together and what is so unimaginable for me at least for now is how to go forward without him.
I understand death well and know it’s not unique to any of us we are all judged and remembered by how we treat others in life and in the end. So, my heart is content knowing he gave his all to everyone he met and will reap the rewards of a great and kind life.
That alone brings me comfort and allows me to move forward.
Here is our hope ...
I am able to speak for him knowing every nuance of the person who had my heart in his hands from the very moment I laid eyes on him.
Some who read this may not be able to fully understand that Love really doesn't have a boundary or a defined definition of who is allowed to love.
But again, you are reading this because in some way shape or form you all
met Jeff and you know the quality of the person he was.
He is the love of my life that I would gladly give up life to have spared his even if the price was only one extra day, he got to be Jeff Adams on this planet because that one extra day he would have been there for anyone who needed him.
He would have paid that same price if he lost me that I am sure of.
Please try not to Judge a person by who he or she loves but how they show love to everyone they meet along the way.
One day you may have a son or a daughter or meet someone who may love a person of the same sex and by reading this may have gained a little better understanding that with the right support and understanding of their relationship it's not such a scary thing. They can grow up to be amazing people so it's nothing to fear or be afraid of.
What I got out of this relationship...
For me it's simple.
I got the unconditional love of a person, our memory's together, all the places we went, all the great stories of our 34 amazing loving years together and that's something not even death can't take from me.
The biggest gift of all is I got a real family (The Adams Family) Not the Tv version but Jeff's real family.
They accepted me and our love from the very first day and have always been loving supportive and understanding and that has always made us both feel incredibly safe.
I have to be completely honest, not an hour has gone by since losing Jeff that I haven't broke down missing him, my heart is just broken.
But writing this it took away a lot of the sadness and made me think about the memories and how fortunate I am to have had that time with a guy of Jeff's caliber and love. It really did make me start to think about all the good and not just the bad.
One last story of the kind of man he was.
We have a family friend that is in her late 90s who lost her husband over 10 years ago. They were friends of Jeff's parents from years ago.
Jeff and Massy (our Lab) went over to her house every day to just talk with her, keep her company and make sure she didn't need anything and was safe. He was never asked to do it that was just his character.
I hope everyone who reads this gets to be as lucky as I was to have that special person in their life for 34 loving years that puts a smile on your face when they walk into a room and most of all makes you feel safe and become a far better person.
Jeff did that for me and the more people I talk to when I tell them he passed away all seem to have a story they tell me of his kindness toward them.
So just when I couldn't be prouder of him, I am!
So that's my little piece of the person I cherished and was very proud to call my husband.
Jeff once said to me you know,
At best in our lifetime, we only get 60 to 70
Springs
Summers
Falls
and Winters
That really doesn't seem like a lot when you figure out how many you may only have left!
So, I guess the point is we need to make the most of that very short time we have on this planet...
I miss you Jeff my husband, the love of my life.
Keep the tractor running and I will
Be with you soon .....
Love Mark
In lieu of flowers I would ask that you make a donation to services that where passions of his:
The Ocean Board of agriculture
1623 Whitesville Rd.
Toms River, NJ 08755
(Make Checks payable to: OCBA)
The money will go to help everything from
The 4H Club, New Jersey fisherman, Farmers and many other of
New Jersey's agricultural needs.
They are an amazing group of people he was proud to call his friends.
Also:
The Ocean County Fair
An event that all the people and resources mentioned above are all a part of.
Even if was to just go to the Fair for the night to have fun and meet all those wonderful amazing kind hearted friends and colleagues of Jeff who work tirelessly just to make the fair happen.
That would bring Jeff so much joy.
For more information please visit: Oceancountyfair.com
Most of all
Support your local farmers and fisherman because it takes an army of people, resources and incredibly talent just for you to enjoy that one Apple or plate of your favorite fish.
Services for Jeffrey are private at the convenience of the family, and under the care of the GEORGE S. HASSLER FUNERAL HOME, Jackson Twp., NJ. For further information and to send condolence messages to the family, please select the appropriate tab.
We all know the old saying (he would give the shirt off his back)
But having the honor to be loved by him for so long that saying literally hold true about Jeff.
The man truly would give the shirt off his back or the last dollar in his pocket to anyone, family, friend, stranger who he had the pleasure to meet and needed his help.
He never judged or turned his back on anyone, especially anyone in need
if you knew him you know this to be true.
He was my rock we spent every day together and what is so unimaginable for me at least for now is how to go forward without him.
I understand death well and know it’s not unique to any of us we are all judged and remembered by how we treat others in life and in the end. So, my heart is content knowing he gave his all to everyone he met and will reap the rewards of a great and kind life.
That alone brings me comfort and allows me to move forward.
Here is our hope ...
I am able to speak for him knowing every nuance of the person who had my heart in his hands from the very moment I laid eyes on him.
Some who read this may not be able to fully understand that Love really doesn't have a boundary or a defined definition of who is allowed to love.
But again, you are reading this because in some way shape or form you all
met Jeff and you know the quality of the person he was.
He is the love of my life that I would gladly give up life to have spared his even if the price was only one extra day, he got to be Jeff Adams on this planet because that one extra day he would have been there for anyone who needed him.
He would have paid that same price if he lost me that I am sure of.
Please try not to Judge a person by who he or she loves but how they show love to everyone they meet along the way.
One day you may have a son or a daughter or meet someone who may love a person of the same sex and by reading this may have gained a little better understanding that with the right support and understanding of their relationship it's not such a scary thing. They can grow up to be amazing people so it's nothing to fear or be afraid of.
What I got out of this relationship...
For me it's simple.
I got the unconditional love of a person, our memory's together, all the places we went, all the great stories of our 34 amazing loving years together and that's something not even death can't take from me.
The biggest gift of all is I got a real family (The Adams Family) Not the Tv version but Jeff's real family.
They accepted me and our love from the very first day and have always been loving supportive and understanding and that has always made us both feel incredibly safe.
I have to be completely honest, not an hour has gone by since losing Jeff that I haven't broke down missing him, my heart is just broken.
But writing this it took away a lot of the sadness and made me think about the memories and how fortunate I am to have had that time with a guy of Jeff's caliber and love. It really did make me start to think about all the good and not just the bad.
One last story of the kind of man he was.
We have a family friend that is in her late 90s who lost her husband over 10 years ago. They were friends of Jeff's parents from years ago.
Jeff and Massy (our Lab) went over to her house every day to just talk with her, keep her company and make sure she didn't need anything and was safe. He was never asked to do it that was just his character.
I hope everyone who reads this gets to be as lucky as I was to have that special person in their life for 34 loving years that puts a smile on your face when they walk into a room and most of all makes you feel safe and become a far better person.
Jeff did that for me and the more people I talk to when I tell them he passed away all seem to have a story they tell me of his kindness toward them.
So just when I couldn't be prouder of him, I am!
So that's my little piece of the person I cherished and was very proud to call my husband.
Jeff once said to me you know,
At best in our lifetime, we only get 60 to 70
Springs
Summers
Falls
and Winters
That really doesn't seem like a lot when you figure out how many you may only have left!
So, I guess the point is we need to make the most of that very short time we have on this planet...
I miss you Jeff my husband, the love of my life.
Keep the tractor running and I will
Be with you soon .....
Love Mark
In lieu of flowers I would ask that you make a donation to services that where passions of his:
The Ocean Board of agriculture
1623 Whitesville Rd.
Toms River, NJ 08755
(Make Checks payable to: OCBA)
The money will go to help everything from
The 4H Club, New Jersey fisherman, Farmers and many other of
New Jersey's agricultural needs.
They are an amazing group of people he was proud to call his friends.
Also:
The Ocean County Fair
An event that all the people and resources mentioned above are all a part of.
Even if was to just go to the Fair for the night to have fun and meet all those wonderful amazing kind hearted friends and colleagues of Jeff who work tirelessly just to make the fair happen.
That would bring Jeff so much joy.
For more information please visit: Oceancountyfair.com
Most of all
Support your local farmers and fisherman because it takes an army of people, resources and incredibly talent just for you to enjoy that one Apple or plate of your favorite fish.
Services for Jeffrey are private at the convenience of the family, and under the care of the GEORGE S. HASSLER FUNERAL HOME, Jackson Twp., NJ. For further information and to send condolence messages to the family, please select the appropriate tab.